Pathway to Normal Eating: Start setting and achieving realistic goals

Setting goals can be intimidating for an ED person. For me, any kind of food limiting goal was impossible. Diets were simply one big long cheat, pretending to want to diet away my fat, yet almost never eating according to the plan. The one time I lost on a diet program, I lost over 100 pounds, getting down to 177. The diet ended because I became pregnant, and the “counselor” at the center was apparently so angry that she’d lost a paying customer that she accused my husband of controlling everything I did. Bizarre, freaky woman. <yes, dear, you want another beer? I’m on my way. I love the visit to Stepford we made a while back. I feel so satisfied, and you’re so hot.>

This year I really learned to set and work toward goals. Just click on the category goals in this blog, and you’ll see how a person can turn a food obsession into a goal obsession.

Set goals that work for you, the smaller the better when you start out. Don’t give up a food category forever, if that’s your wish. Instead, start by skipping that food at a single meal. Repeat when it feels right, and keep working at it. Many of my good habits started with doing it once, then not again for months. But slowly, I started building them until I reached the level of “good enough.”