Ending self-criticism

It’s not affirmations. It’s not guided journeys. It’s not cognitive behavioral therapy. It’s not binging, or nude meditation, or sewing, or EFT, or NLP, or scream therapy.
It may be all of those things and none of those things, but the bottom line is I’m changing the way I think, and it’s changing my life.
Beating myself [...]

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Guided Journeys: what are they good for?

I’m currently working with two of the IOWL  guided journeys, Sabotage Self-Sabotage and Appetite Adjuster.
They aren’t magic, they are NLP-kind of activities that get you into the right mindset to do what you need to do. That’s the key, by the way. Having the right mindset so you move actively towards the skill you want [...]

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How Runaway Bride found her favorite eggs

Once people with eating disorders start to get their heads on straight, they find out there’s lots of things they don’t know how to do. Rather than make decisions, they (read I) used to eat until the decision was no longer necessary.
Maggie Barnes (Julia Roberts) in Runaway Bride had the same problem.  She’d fall in [...]

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Guided journey: eww!! body parts

Today’s guided journey brought me strong feelings, even though I didn’t go very deeply into the relaxation state. First, as I relaxed, I experienced a strong emotion. This isn’t explicitly part of the guided journey, but I just experience it as I go down into a deep state of relaxation.
Today’s emotion was feelings of [...]

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“Sabotage Self-sabotage” guided journey update: yinyang

Every time I do this conflict resolution journey, it’s different. The conflicts I’m resolving are pretty much all around eating habits. In the journey itself, Renee talks about resolving the conflicting desires to stay fat versus releasing excess weight.
In this morning’s journey I learned that one way I benefit from staying fat is that the [...]

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Chocolate is as normal as an apple

There’s a lot of chocolate in my house. Literally kilos of chocolate. That’s because I wrote a chocolate blog as part of my personal therapy. Aligned with the compulsive eating, I had strong cravings for chocolate. When I discovered Overcoming Overeating, and Geneen Roth, and Inside Out Weight Loss, I knew I had to make [...]

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Repetition builds new beliefs

I keep seeing a gap between my rational thoughts about normal eating and the ability to actually do it consistently. After reviewing my history, I see that I believe academically that normal eating is best, and will help me get to a normal size, but I still experience those moments (many of them) in which [...]

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Naked while fat

As the summer comes to an end, the outdoor pool season comes to an end and the indoor pools open up again. With it comes a reminder of my most peculiar contradiction in my thinking: naked while fat.
I can battle for the rights of almost anyone diversity-wise. I’ve gone on protests for gay rights (I’m [...]

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Post-It note therapy

It’s a bit of a giant picture, I know, but I wanted to show you as much detail as I could. These are examples of my post-it note therapy, in which I change my mood or my thinking.
Items 1 and 2 on the right are a sample of my success journal. When I really need [...]

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My Five Whys about goals

The 5 Whys is a technique to help you find out the reasons behind behaviors. Ask as long as you need to in order to get to a meaningful stopping point.
How do I make the connection between your plan to lose weight and your daily goals? What’s keeping me from losing as fast as I’d [...]

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