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I’m currently working with two of the IOWL  guided journeys, Sabotage Self-Sabotage and Appetite Adjuster.

They aren’t magic, they are NLP-kind of activities that get you into the right mindset to do what you need to do. That’s the key, by the way. Having the right mindset so you move actively towards the skill you want to have (in my case, a naturally slender intuitive eater).

What does the Sabotage journey give me? A mechanism that helps me analyze my internal conflicts and choose a better option than food.

What does the Appetite journey give me? I’ve run it about a half-dozen times so far. I’m starting to be able to look at food and choose to not eat it because I’m not quite hungry enough and because eating it at that time does not meet my goals.

So I’m sorta combining the two techniques into one path for me. If you’re thinking about buying these, think about this before you decide. If that’s where your head is at, they might be helpful. If you’re still really into deep emotional turmoil over eating and “shoulding” on yourself a lot, don’t bother. Just give yourself plenty of loving self-care. One day something like these might be helpful, but not right now.

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After using the guided journey for a couple of days, here’s a brief description of my experiences.

The 30 minute journey has 3 parts:

  • Relaxation and going into the “self-hypnosis” or quiet state
  • Identification and integration of the two opposing wishes (to lose weight and to keep the benefits of the weight)
  • Reinforcement of the learnings from the integration

What’s happened to me so far is that I’ve experienced strong emotions and memories while relaxing, and that each identification and integration experience has been different.

Example: today I visualized a scroll in my right hand, holding the rational reasons to lose weight, and a pile of fat in my left hand, representing the layer of safety and protection that fat provides. Upon integrating the two, I visualized muscle.

From that, I conclude that building muscle will provide me with the same protection and safety that I formerly got from my layers of fat.  That’s a powerful reason to exercise.

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You’ve seen them everywhere. Their method will help you recover from your ED, become an intuitive eater, lose weight with normal eating, mimic the habits of slim people, yadda yadda.

They have qualifications out the wazoo: degrees, scientists, papers published, highly respected in their fields, therapists, some of them have even lost a little weight themselves. They tell you about ALL the people they have helped, there are testimonials. Many, many have books that they are sure you would benefit from if you bought it.

What’s missing? Data. No one, not even the purported scientists, is demonstrating permanent change in their clients. Scientific reports, when they exist, are mostly about proving small elements of their theory works. Where the heck is the proof that so-and-so expert has coached/therapized/taught a certain number of people to eat normally, lose weight, and keep it off? Where are the studies of people at 5 years out, 10 years out? How are they doing?

We “know” that diets have about a 5% permanent success rate. What is the success rate of the non-diet movement? Better than dieting? Worse?

I’m tired of seeing statistics about the problem. I’m tired of reading testimonials like “I’m still struggling, but…” or “I haven’t lost weight yet, but…”

My statistics?

  • Lost almost 50 pounds so far
  • Exercise willingly 3 or more times a week
  • Can skip meals without binging
  • Can leave food on my plate
  • Stopped yelling at myself and seeing failure everywhere

Don’t get me wrong – I love experts and the insights they bring. I don’t deny that they have learned, and want to teach others.

But the expert who shows me with data that 10% of their clients have lost over 50 pounds and controlled their eating disorder for 10 years is a million times more valuable than any person who claims to have “helped thousands” with no more proof than a testimonial on a web page.

If you know an expert with proof, please let me know. I wanna believe, but I’m sick of weasel words.

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Learning yesterday about using anchors to change my emotional state, I realized that I have several techniques available to change my thinking about myself, all derived from working on my ED.

  • Thinking like an investigative reporter: trying out something, like legalizing foods, paying attention to how it makes me feel, then deciding if I will incorporate it into my life
  • Yelling at the negative thoughts inside my head
  • The ABCDEF technique for replacing irrational beliefs with rational ones
  • Leaning into the curve during intense emotional moments: giving in to the emotions, and exaggerating them, helps me get through them
  • Using anchors to control my emotional state

The anchors process is new for me. The process is defining a physical means of changing your emotions, rather Pavlovian in nature. It goes like this:

  1. Choose a physical method you want to connect to this strong emotion. Something like touching your wrist, or snapping your fingers, or tapping on your hand, that sort of thing.
  2. Close your eyes and think of a time in which you were really confident, energized, etc.
  3. Increase the intensity of the emotion, and do the physical thing (e.g. touch your wrist).
  4. Open your eyes for just a moment, bringing yourself back to reality
  5. Repeat the process several times.

Continue practicing this over several weeks until you find that just doing the physical thing will put you into the state. It’s classic Neuro-Linguistic Practice, and certainly seems to work for me.

My positives:

  1. I worked unbelievably hard this week, and am now playing just as hard. It’s exciting.
  2. I’ve been able to open up about my ED to strangers this week, both face2face and otherwise.
  3. I’m glad about my progress with the anchors for the eating process, and now want to apply it to my work thinking as well.
  4. I ate just exactly the way I wanted last night, and brought home the leftovers for some other day
  5. I’m choosing new kinds of clothes that make me feel pretty and feminine

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Learning yesterday about using anchors to change my emotional state, I realized that I have several techniques available to change my thinking about myself, all derived from working on my ED.

  • Thinking like an investigative reporter: trying out something, like legalizing foods, paying attention to how it makes me feel, then deciding if I will incorporate it into my life
  • Yelling at the negative thoughts inside my head
  • The ABCDEF technique for replacing irrational beliefs with rational ones
  • Leaning into the curve during intense emotional moments: giving in to the emotions, and exaggerating them, helps me get through them
  • Using anchors to control my emotional state

The anchors process is new for me. The process is defining a physical means of changing your emotions, rather Pavlovian in nature. It goes like this:

  1. Choose a physical method you want to connect to this strong emotion. Something like touching your wrist, or snapping your fingers, or tapping on your hand, that sort of thing.
  2. Close your eyes and think of a time in which you were really confident, energized, etc.
  3. Increase the intensity of the emotion, and do the physical thing (e.g. touch your wrist).
  4. Open your eyes for just a moment, bringing yourself back to reality
  5. Repeat the process several times.

Continue practicing this over several weeks until you find that just doing the physical thing will put you into the state. It’s classic Neuro-Linguistic Practice, and certainly seems to work for me.

My positives:

  1. I worked unbelievably hard this week, and am now playing just as hard. It’s exciting.
  2. I’ve been able to open up about my ED to strangers this week, both face2face and otherwise.
  3. I’m glad about my progress with the anchors for the eating process, and now want to apply it to my work thinking as well.
  4. I ate just exactly the way I wanted last night, and brought home the leftovers for some other day
  5. I’m choosing new kinds of clothes that make me feel pretty and feminine

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swimmer.jpgIt’s a temporary madness, I’m sure, and can be directly attributed to my swishing. I’m addicted to swimming this week. After 2 days in a row, I found myself furtively checking the pool open times to see when I could swim this evening. What the heck, I’m going to enjoy it while I’ve got it.

  1. These NLP techniques are beginning to stick a little. The visualizations and the swish are giving me images inside my head that reflect where I want to be
  2. Research has shown that my dreams are expression of my opening myself up to change
  3. My mission statement for the moment is to practice these techniques and see if I can lose some weight by the end of the month
  4. I like the feeling of strength swimming gives me
  5. I noticed that I’m more focused in the water, now that I have reduced my negative self-talk

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It’s a temporary madness, I’m sure, and can be directly attributed to my swishing. I’m addicted to swimming this week. After 2 days in a row, I found myself furtively checking the pool open times to see when I could swim this evening. What the heck, I’m going to enjoy it while I’ve got it.

  1. These NLP techniques are beginning to stick a little. The visualizations and the swish are giving me images inside my head that reflect where I want to be
  2. Research has shown that my dreams are expression of my opening myself up to change
  3. My mission statement for the moment is to practice these techniques and see if I can lose some weight by the end of the month
  4. I like the feeling of strength swimming gives me
  5. I noticed that I’m more focused in the water, now that I have reduced my negative self-talk

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